Meghan Markle’s empowering words that will make you a winner

21 may 2019, 15:15 ∙ 5 min read

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Alice Melody

“It’s a baby boy!” – The breaking news made us stop routinely scrolling feeds, grasp some air, and delightedly grin to a phone. Immediately after, the tsunami-sized wave of warm wishes covered the Internet. Rarely do we see such a genuine unification among strangers dispersed around the Globe.

At that moment I was courageously coping with my super-healthy broccoli lunch (TBH, I’d prefer French fries) and trying to figure out why we’re so pumped to welcome the firstborn child of Meghan Markle and Prince Harry?

It’s not because Archie Harrison Mountbatten-Windsor is seventh in line to the British throne, obviously. Nor do the Duke and Duchess of Sussex resemble iconic bragging celebs. Aside from titles, they’ve always appeared to be caring and encouraging people. The ones we’d love to make friends with.

Then I hit on the idea: a well-received and charismatic self-made actress, who grew up not even dreaming of gaining popularity this wide, Meghan made us believe that wonders do happen to “ordinary” people.

Frequently did she astonish the audience with a powerful speech on human rights and equality. She stood up for a bright future for women all over the world. Moreover, she had been lighting our way by publishing pep talks on her blog the TIG long before she married a prince.

Bearing that in mind, I couldn't resist the temptation to list out Meghan's empowering words and pieces of advice based on her real-life experience that, hopefully, can make you a winner.

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Be okay with NO

Nobody wins from the start. When being cast for the first movie parts, Meghan Markle got used to hearing NO from the auditioning board members every single day. As she told in the interview at Create & Cultivate conference in Atlanta, in most of the cases, the failure is not an actor’s fault.

“I ended up going into so many auditions, and you get the thickest skin of all time since it’s very hard not to question something about yourself in those moments when it has absolutely nothing to do with you.”

Aforementioned can be applied to any contest or a job interview: the employers may be looking for someone of specific appearance, voice, character, skills, or foot size, whatever. Though not meeting their requirements, you’re still skilled and worth finding your place. Keep trying. Every cloud has a silver lining.

Feeling down? We all can experience a lack of confidence from time to time. According to Meghan, she was devastated when didn’t get the parts.

“It took a long time to find myself. People telling you NO every single day in an audition room... But it’s a “numbers game”. At a certain point, someone will say YES. Be Okay with the NO.”

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Don’t spend 5 mins on things you wouldn’t devote 5 years to

As Meghan Markle was going from one audition to another, she had to crawl to the driver’s seat through a trunk (when no one could see her, of course) because the doors wouldn’t open with the key, and back then she couldn't afford to fix the lock. That went on for 5 months in a row.

“Don’t give something 5 valuable mins of your life if you’re not going to invest 5 years in it”, says Meghan. She explains, that though it sounds like a long time, it flies by. As long as you stick to your passion occupation, it makes your bid stand out from the crowd since people tend to give up and shift gears. But not you. That’s when you see your long-term goals pay off.

 

Be your own cheerleader

We are hardwired to overestimating our minor setbacks rather than embracing small positive results. However, propelling motivation hardly stems from self-berating or self-blaming.

According to Meghan Markle, the most lasting piece of advice she keeps in mind every single day is “Be kind to yourself”.

What she wants you to understand is that you’re gonna have hiccups and typos. Yes, they may drive you crazy. Yes, you keep thinking: How did that happen? Where did I misstep? Having those regrets is fine.

“If we just talked to ourselves as we talk to our best friends, how much nicer we would be to ourselves. I would never be as nasty; I would never in a million years say to my friend anything that I say to myself when I’m beating myself up over a mistake.”

This piece of self-care wisdom should be etched on your mind.

As unfolded by Meghan, this way, you become the best cheerleader ever who helps you get through any work hurdles or life hurdles because you always have yourself championing yourself!

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Sounds simple, but it’s a game-changer, though.

 

Come up with your asset

Recently, while visiting the U.K. charity organization supporting unemployed women, the Duchess of Sussex taught participants to unveil and highlight their hidden or unrecognized assets which may come out naturally in a conversation.

“You’re so busy and multitask all the time? Well, that’s a great thing for your employer to know. Share that. Assets and jams are inside of you; you just need someone to remind you of them. And, suddenly, you land a job!”

Does it mean you need to be almighty in order to succeed? Long answer: No, avoid imagining that you’re a tireless octopus and can hold down 8 things at a time. You’d rather focus on the essential points. Short answer: Still, no. Come on, you’re not an octopus!

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Make people fans of yours and see what happens

This ambitious one reassured Meghan Markle that each step toward a desirable goal would eventually pay off since word-of-mouth recommendations and social connections frequently determine our way to success.

“A piece of advice I was given early on: don’t try to win the part, just win the room. At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter whether you nailed that interview and got the exact job or not, though it may have seemed a dream one. If you make fans of people in that room, the initial positive impression carries on so much longer.”

In other words, you’ve made a clever pitch here today – the other day you got a business offer from someone who’d noticed you. Or just compliments, that inspires a lot. Or maybe an offer and some compliments, which is even better.

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Less pretending, more you

“You need to know that you’re enough… That five pounds lost won’t make you happier, that more makeup won’t make you prettier, that the now iconic saying from Jerry Maguire – ”You complete me” – frankly, isn’t true. You are complete with or without a partner. You are enough just as you are.”

Before you shrugged and became skeptical: this epic post on The Tig blog brought Meghan an email asking her to act as a representative for the UN Women organization. Be honest, authentic, and genuine. Be yourself. The truth may open many doors.

If you want to assess your self-esteem according to the well-known Rosenberg Self-Esteem Scale, answer a few questions here.

 

Enjoy this silly little life ride

Before deleting her Instagram and blog from the web (as part of becoming a royal person), the former “Suits” series star repeatedly revealed her genuine amazement at how fortunate she was after struggling as an auditioning actor for so long.

As she wrote for the Tig, she never thought that half a decade of starring in a popular series, as well as her mom sitting in her trailer on a filming location, would be her reality. This implies that Meghan doesn’t take life twists for granted.

“I never thought that my life would be that awesome, that I’d have the show “Suits” that went for this long. That’s crazy. And there’s a fruit basket in my trailer, WOW! When you’re grateful for little things and you don’t lose sight of that, you can enjoy them. I’m pretty certain that the whole point is just to enjoy this silly little life ride that we’re all on.”

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